To My Daughter
September 3, 2013
I remember the day I found out I was having a baby girl. For the first time in my life, I felt pure joy. A daughter. My daughter.
Then it hit me. The maternal responsibility. I had an obligation to raise a strong, intelligent, kind and thoughtful girl. Over the course of 9 months, I made so many promises to the tiny peanut growing inside me. As Joslin’s 5th birthday rapidly approaches I reflect on 15 things I have learned and hope to teach her.
- Laugh out loud. Often.
- Dance whenever, wherever and however the music moves you.
- Sing out loud even if you don’t know all the words.
- Love. LOVE BIG. Go all in. Expect to get what you give. If you don’t, walk away fast.
- When you heart is broken, get up, get dressed-up and go out. Movement heals everything.
- Dream big, really BIG and take risks. If you are anything like your parents, you won’t be able to escape this one.
- Smile devilishly at those who tell you, “You won’t succeed.” You know the truth.
- Surround yourself with strong, confident women who don’t pretend that everything is perfect…it never will be.
- When you cry you are not weak…it is braver to allow yourself to feel than to pretend you don’t at all.
- Stay present. Soak up the little pleasures in life. Tiny, seemingly insignificant pleasures add up to a lifetime of happiness. This one is harder than it sounds.
- There is nothing you can’t do. Tell yourself this often and it will be true.
- As your Nonna always say, “Life is only complicated if you make it.”
- You deserve nothing unless you’ve earned it. Occasionally you’ll get something for nothing, but you won’t feel good about it.
- Every night before you go to bed, kiss the ones you love and take a moment to say “thank you” out loud.
- Call your mother (me) at least once a day.